[Thoughts] 為自己而活 Live for yourself

最近有朋友遇到了一些困難
陪她聊天時可以感受到她的那份糾結
其實她知道她應該放下
但是她不甘心
對, 就是這三個字
不甘心
讓多少人都陷在一個困境裡走不出來
而世俗的評價也是造成她卻步的原因之一
可是
如果人生是要活在別人的嘴巴裡
日子要怎麼過呢?
我們永遠不可能討好所有人, 不是嗎?

人生裡在面對許多決定時
總是或多或少會受到一些外在因素影響
即使灑脫如我
還是會有不小心被影響的時刻
靜下心, 面對自己
傾聽最底層的想法
甚麼東西對你才是最重要的?
金錢? 面子? 榮譽? 權力?
還是最基本的健康與快樂?

過去的8年我也追求著自己的目標
頭銜帶來的權力曾經是我所想要的
但是真的得到之後又怎麼樣呢?
說穿了我也不過就是一個領薪水的員工罷了

社會總是有些固有的價值觀加諸在每個人身上
上名校, 開名車, 進入知名企業, 結婚生子
從小我們就被這些觀念推著往前跑
可是, 這些真的是適合你的嗎?
每個人的人生都該為自己而活
找出自己想要的, 才能夠真正的快樂
即使今天領著高薪坐在漂亮辦公室裡
但你的心裡卻是無助失落, 甚至痛苦抗拒
也許別人稱羨, 可是只有你才知道你的那份掙扎

當然看到這裡有人會說:拜託那是你的家庭允許你這樣好嗎?
說真的我的父母也許比別人稍微開放一點點
但是我能夠走我自己的路也是我自己去爭取來的
大吵, 哭泣, 冷戰, 我們通通都經歷過
過程中父母會看見你為自己的決定所付出的
也會發現其實你能夠為自己負責任
慢慢地他們會接納並諒解
至於其他人怎麼看你, 說真的, 干他們屁事?!

不要為無謂的執著去傷了自己
我們只活一次, 人生很短
應該應用在讓妳快樂的事情上
而不是別人的嘴巴裡
為自己而活吧

in Taiwan, it's not always easy to live for yourself
the society has a set course that wishes everyone would follow
great school, perfect job, fancy car, get married and have children
this is what they called "winner of life"
but is it really the right path for you? and who to judge winner or not?

we only live once, why should we live our lives according to others?
shouldn't we listen to ourselves and find where our own happiness is?

it is not an easy road, to be on your own
sometimes it gets really lonely
but that's the price you pay for you to be happy
and living the life you want for yourself
eventually you will find it all worth it

sometimes we are so afraid of making mistakes or losing
but to be honest, what's there to lose?
we tried, we did our best, if the outcome wasn't as perfect as you wanted to be
it's fine, it's just a process, and we learn from it
next time we know better and we try again

remember, only you know what's best for you
so take some time and listen to yourself
find out the right path and go for it
the journey is going to be with ups and downs
but it's gonna be a great fun!